Vikas stays quiet these days, he is hesitant from going to school. He locks himself in his room after coming from school and also doesn’t go out to play with his friends. His parents stay worried about him. After a lot of persuasion his elder sister tried to convince him to talk and that’s when she came to know that Vikas is being bullied at school. He is made fun of his thin appearance and introvert personality. His classmates at school call him names and there have been instances when he has been tortured physically by other boys at school. He has very few friends and now he has lost his confidence too.
Vikas is a victim of bullying and there are many other students and teenagers who go through the same suffering as Vikas. In the past few years, there has been very heinous instances of bullying where the boy or the girl is to tortured to a point which led them to commit suicide.
Before we read how students and teenagers can cope with bullying, we need to understand what is bullying and how it works.
A bully can be someone who purposely tries to hurt others physically, abuse them or tries to degenerate them. Bullying can be defined as an aggressive behavior most common among school going kids and teenagers. Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and excluding someone from a group on purpose.
Here are some ways that can help you get out of bullying and help you cope up with your bully -
Avoid the bully
The most important step to avoid being bullied is to avoid the company of the bully. It might be possible for you to start with. This can mean getting to school in a different way, or avoiding the places that you know he or she hangs out. By avoiding a bully, you’re not giving in, but looking after yourself and making sure you are happier and more comfortable.
When possible, ignore the bully
Ignoring can be helpful, particularly for one-time cases. When you are around a bully, they always look for a reaction from you and often lose interest if they aren’t given the satisfaction of making you upset. This is how you can ignore the bully -
- Walk away when the bully approaches you. Walk casually so that you don’t give him a sense of fear. Try to distract yourself.
- Try thinking about what you’ll do next weekend, counting to 100, or planning your homework.
Bullies usually pick on people that they think are weaker than they are, so it might help if you stand up to them. Your confidence intimidates the bully. So talk firmly with him, try to counter him with humor because it throws them off track.
Surround yourself with friends
Talk to your friends about your situation and make them understand. It’s important that you connect with people who genuinely care for you and recognize all of your great qualities. Surrounding yourself with positive people who know and like you for YOU can boost your confidence. Talking to someone is particularly important if you feel unsafe or frightened, or if you don’t have many friends. Asking for help or talking to someone about your situation is not being weak.
It can be hard to stay positive when you are harassed. Try to think of all the things you do well, and remember that you are a valuable person. Thinking of how bad the bully must be feeling can also help you stay positive.
Stay in groups
You might be safer if you stay in groups. If you are alone, try to identify people who can offer you safety. Bullies generally do not intimidate you when you are in a group; they always seek a chance to attack you when you are alone.
To stop bullying, whether verbal, written or cyber bullying, it can be helpful to tell someone that you are being bullied. This can seem scary at first, but telling someone can lighten your load and help you to work out how to solve the problem. If you are being bullied at school, there are many people who might be able to help, including friends, older brothers and sisters, teachers, family, counselors with whom you can speak. Having an emotional back up from your elder brother or sister can do wonders in such cases. Always discuss such problems with them, just like Vikas.
Teachers and counselors are specially trained to help you, so if you are at school report immediately about such cases to them.
There are many things you can do if you’re being bullied. Different strategies can work in different situations. You can try and work it out by yourself. But if the bullying doesn’t stop, you might find it helpful to consult a counselor or even the police if the case is serious. If you know someone who is being bullied then always offer to help them. Don’t be afraid to let someone know that you are being bullied, it can be serious crime and you should not stay mum about it.