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Help! Married For 14 Years, Wife Now Stays Uninterested in Sex

Help! Married For 14 Years, Wife Now Stays Uninterested in Sex


  2266      14/07/2015

Question –


Hi I have been married for last 14 years and we have two girls. Now my wife do not want to make relation with me and is withholding it , giving different reason such as “I am sick, I have headache, long phone conversation at night, kids are sick” etc. We have not had a proper relation in the last 3-4 years. So what I should do?



Expert Advice –



Avoidance of sexual activity by your wife could be due to physical or psychological reasons.

Physical reasons could be:


  1. Hormonal Imbalance
  2. Inflammation/Infection of genital organs
  3. Vaginal atrophy etc


Psychological Causes could be

  1. Fear for sex
  2. Unable to get pleasure in the act
  3. Premature ejaculation of the partner
  4. Painful sexual activity as a result of lack of lubrication / lack of proper stimulation
  5. Feeling of sexual unattractiveness – body image after delivery.


Hence it is important to assess physically and psychologically and then treat it accordingly. You should seek intervention regarding this from a good sexologist or a gynaecologist if she has any female sexual health issue.


Take Care
- Dr A Chakravarthy



Dr. Poosha
Samalkot and Hyderabad

Niyatii N Shah
Sex Educator

Dr. Aarti Gupta

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