Nivedita is a 13 year old cheerful girl. She is a happy-go-lucky girl who mingles very easily with everyone. But from last few days she has been staying quiet and afraid all the times. This bothered her mother, who tried to investigate about it. After trying very hard she talked to Nivedita and came to know she is a being molested by her uncle, who is a close friend of her father. Her mother immediately reported this to police, and after investigation it was found that that man was a regular sex offender. Nivedita was saved after this instance but not everybody is so lucky, because most of the children who go through molestation are too afraid to even speak up.
Listed below are some points that are counted as molestation:
- Showing pornography to a child
- Deliberately exposing an adult's genitals to a child
- Photographing a child in sexual poses
- Encouraging a child to watch or hear sexual acts
- Inappropriately watching a child undress or use the bathroom
If any of these things have happened with you then you have been a victim of molestation. Listed below are some measures that you should take in such a case:
1. Do not panic, don’t be afraid
First of all girls who have been victim of molestation and sexual harassment should not panic and be afraid. Whatever happened with you was a heinous act but always remember to keep your calm. Don’t be afraid of your molester. Your molester will try to threaten you but you should understand that he is afraid of getting exposed, because whatever he did was wrong. You should rather gather the courage to expose him.
2. Do not blame yourself
Whatever happened to you was not your fault. You should not blame yourself in such situations. Do not think that you were wearing wrong clothes, or you were being too friendly with him, or you attracted him because you are a girl. Molesters are monsters and they can make anybody their target. It was never your mistake. So you don’t have anything to be ashamed of.
3. Tell your parents
Do not hesitate to tell your parents if anything like this happens to you. Talk to you mother or father, or you elder sibling about it, whoever you are comfortable talking to. Your family is your biggest support in such cases, and do not ever think that they will judge you or blame you for being molested. Telling your elders will reduce your fear and strict actions against the molester will be taken.
4. Talk to a psychologist
Instances of molestation can have very long lasting effects, it is seen that it can persist even when you grow up. The imagery of being molested can haunt you, you may develop trust issues and you might develop aversion towards physical intimacy. To overcome your fear and doubts, you should consult a psychologist who will help you in such a situation.
5. Do not alienate yourself
Whatever happened cannot be altered now. This does not make you are scarred for life. Life can be very cruel but you are a strong person. Do not alienate yourself if such a thing has happened with you. Now you know it was not your mistake. So try to come out of the depression and start life afresh. There are so many things to be happy about. So stay positive and stop worrying.
MOLESTATION IS A CRIME, AND ONLY WE CAN STOP IT.